Inspiration is something we all look for, but recently, I had another perspective shown to me that made me realize, I was wrong. When I used to think of inspiration, I would think of change, motivation, and a new life. The thing is though, that inspiration is only for as good as you can hold onto that initial feeling. If you hear words with music, when that music fades, the words do too, and in recognizing that, I realized that inspiration is truly shallow.

I recognized that inspiration is a band-aid, and a means just to get to the next moment. I love to inspire people, so don’t get me wrong, and I also offer services, a blog, and a social media page that allows that inspiration to withstand or truly turn into the definition of motivation (the ability to get people to act upon what you say vs. just believing they can). The stumbling block comes again though after efforts fails. What do you do, do you look for more inspiration or motivation, or do you stop and feel hopeless/helpless?

For me, as many times as I have been here, I stop and I sulk in hopeless/helpless. The problem with the aforementioned stimulates, is that there is no truth or authenticity from or in yourself to sustain these positive emotions. There is not honesty in your own emotion, but a burst of hope from another that makes you believe that you truly need to change. This thought though has to be supported with faith. For me, as I have sulked, I realized you should sulk too. Yes, it sounds crazy, but if you were able to sit in the destruction of your dreams or thoughts, would you not come up with more? Would you not take a break? Would you not redirect? Would something inside of you not begin to motivate you again based on how bad you truly wanted something?

This is why inspiration, even motivation, is shallow. If someone is having a health issue, do they want to hear about “keep your chin up”, or “it will all be okay”? To me, no I do not believe I would, so that inspiration is not truly helping. That “keep fighting” statement, is it going to sustain them while they endure chemo? Maybe from the right person, but probably not- when you leave, so do your words. I want you to know that it is okay to sulk, to sit and say, “man this sucks”. Honestly, I want to sit there with you! I want to guide you through this moment, emotion, or change, and I am not sure many other people are, as they just want to keep going and forget.

I spoke with someone who focused on resilience once, and I saw that is just moving emotions aside to continue on. The fact is, a lot of us really need to sit and sulk. After you sulk you can begin to fully heal. Since you have the capacity, the space, and a renewed energy source, you can place your designed hope for your future, faith in God’s ways, motivation through aspiration, and inspiration for a little pick me up into action. In loss of self, you don’t need inspiration, nor motivation, you need space to dive below the seen iceberg and know what is really keeping it afloat. My motivation and inspiration helps you start, but you have to find that flame within that keeps you going…let me help you see in the darkness.