“I feel guilty that sometimes I think of taking care of my baby as a chore”
Hello to the one who wrote this:
In all honesty, taking care of your baby is a chore, a responsibility, something that has to be done for the greater good. A baby is very needing at the beginning. As they develop and learn they share that with you, but feeling guilty is not terrible, it is an alarm. To me, when I hear you say “guilty” it means you need a break. It means a lot has changed, now it weighs more on your life than before, and you aren’t sure how to balance it all, or decrease the need of you for others to focus on needing you for you. If you are feeling that you need a break take one, set boundaries, evaluate your use of time, and hyperfocus on what makes you feel full. I know there are smaller you moments in parenthood, so make those worth it by seeking, silence, dark, sunlight, nature, journaling, exercising, or even praying. It is discussing why this shift has made such a huge impact that can help you create a better scenario. Your baby is going to grow fast, so if it is the worst day ever with them, ask yourself would this be so bad if I knew I could never do it again? This time and ability to love is borrowed, and sometimes you have to choose to forgive yourself so you can immerse into the love of your chores- they love you too.
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