Calling life in loss of self and love is just the ability to call it truthfully as you see it, and have no remorse. The reason is that you, in some way, are where you want to be. If it is a bad situation, you may stay because it is “all you know”, or because you want to “give it another try”- they are all choices. You may even fear leaving your situation, but allowing that fear to hold you from leaving, while you are still dying and in fear of being in the same situation, is a choice.

I have heard a woman explain how it is hard to leave, how almost ten times it takes to leave an abusive significant other, and though a negative thought, this loss of self is a choice. I want you to take an emotional step back and look at it. If you are in toxic, do you stay to see if it kills you or do you leave? Do you leave and then wonder about the positives that happened, and hope that it overpowers the negative spell that has been going on for years? I mean I did. I was not abused, but I went back about seven times hoping that my love would make it better. Hoping they would see me for the rare jewel that I was, and love me mutually for what I offered.

Maybe one of you is in this spot, and for me, it did not change, it was not right, and I eventually left because God stepped in. Now, if you are holding on, that things may change, I want to share a story of another that I heard, where God came in again, and the abuser helped pack his significant other’s bags so they and their child could leave the home safely. See, it is not always one constant ending or another, but a mix, the point I want to bring up is the choice to stay. There is nothing wrong with choosing to stay if you are happy and safe. There is even nothing wrong with choosing to stay when it is hard and unsafe, but there is a choice, and calling the life you live in the way of truth is your eye opening key to live.

If you are living financially free, but you work a thousand hours (exaggerated) saying it is for the lifestyle, but you don’t really do anything extravagant, let’s call it, you are already living the lifestyle. If you don’t go to church, but you pray every day and look to God for direction, let’s call it, you are a believer and a church goer (as the church is jut the body of people/of a person who believes). If you are running the streets and making a living killing others, your lifestyle is a killer. My cousin was murdered in what seemed like a changing time in his life. My other cousin died of brain tumors, and I have another friend who died because a blood-clot stuck in their heart. Their lives have been called….called home.

If you are reading this, you are breathing, which means you too can call life in loss of self and love for what it is- good or bad- and make your choice to adjust your life the way you want. Maybe the other person will change, maybe they won’t, but you have to live for you, and they have to make the decision about their ways for them. We all want love to work out, but a lot of the times it doesn’t. The reason is because love and time are borrowed, and things as well as people come for a season at times. So, since you have borrowed time and seasoned company, what are you going to do with it?