In life at times, it feels like your feet are met with cold wood, when you just want carpet. I know for my feet, being cold is not the best, and a warm carpet is just what I need to make my walk a little easier. Maybe you are a blanket person, who wants to be warmed up from all around…this is me too, but the desire is that you want something to keep you warm, comfortable, and surrounded with safety. Love is the same. In life, you want love to surround you, keep your heart warm, and make life just a little easier, but sometimes it doesn’t work like that.
When life feels like you are met with cold wood, or the colder aspects of life and love, it is like a tattoo that pierces your heart, and solidifies itself into your memory. It is always easy to believe that you have changed after a negative relationship because you repress your feelings and start a “new”, harder side of yourself to make sure you can keep going. This “change” doesn’t mean that you are healed. It does not mean that you will be able to build healthy relationships in the future, and it does not mean that you will be able to avoid triggers.
Changing yourself so that you are “over” a cold wood situation in love is just like fixing your hair, putting on a new shirt, or having a glow-up. A lot of the time it is ego based, and only temporarily works. For others it proves nothing, but to you, it is proves the other person is missing out. The true question you should be focused on is that these negative loves are actually negative relationships, and the true question to ask is if you are better? There are times when that cold wood, creates the carpet or blanket situation in your life because it pushes you to see yourself as more than just a pawn- in this situation a truly different person emerges.
When you are ego based changing or real changing, you will always pick up a cardboard box and create a way to move forward. CONFIDENCE + FAITH™ asks you to do just that as well- Move Forward In Love!™. The reason is that you need to get that carpet back under your feet or that blanket around yourself. You need the comfort and warmth of self-love to reveal the authentic you that is ready to live in a better mentality or reality. As you take your cardboard box though, remember you also need 5 things in your backpack for the future; they are:
- Compassion- for yourself and others that you are all on a journey that you are figuring out on the way
- Wisdom- to teach others what you have learned, and remind yourself why change is better
- Heart- to love yourself for where you have been and where you are going
- Healing Kit- so that if pain comes again you can respond differently with disinfectant from lies, bandages from backstabs, and cream for short-term soothing
- Entertainment- a self-help book, Bible, novel, or journal to keep you busy when you may be alone or have to be patient for the next chapter to begin
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