A lot of the time we pretend that we are okay, that life is fine, and we are just living our best life- we lie. We sit and say it all because we know the rest of the world is rushing to get through their day, and could not care less about what we are struggling with, as they balance their own life to maintain their fights. This reality though, for some of us, is not true. It is not that they hide, but they have a safe space to speak about what is truly bothering them, and know they will get help to further their progress.
In my loss of self™ story, and in other comments I read, repression, silence, and head hanging are the best techniques to keep quiet, keep out of trouble, and keep moving. Today, you need to know that this is not a long term plan, and to build healthy relationships you have to start with acknowledging that, and know you deserve more. One other thing that I want to share, is that you are the best thing worth keeping! Your life is a precious gift that may be in the hands of the wrong person, and that is for you to decide.
As your life is a gift, and mine, we both have to know how to communicate, but there are some things like fear, insecurity, and doubt that cause us to shut down and shut up. In communicating that you aren’t okay, or there is an issue that needs to be discussed, there are three ways I can help:
- Have a designated talking spot. Find a place that is quiet, maybe with a door, and a comfort spot or item to make the conversation easier.
- Have a confidant that will listen, respect, and process with you. If you don’t have that, you will use God, meditation, or journaling.
- Have the voice to say, I need to talk. This may be a code word, a schedule day, or a text, but try chatting just for 8 minutes, and end when you need to.
Telling someone that you need help is hard enough, but you can do it. You can get help here, or you can try the tips, or… you can just keep trying the same old way. This is the one consciousness of life you have, start working up to be brave enough to live it, love it, and change it the way you see fit. Your gift is the present, that is why you are a being.
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“I believe that if you understand your broken love, you can change yourself, your relationships, and the world.”
– Samantha Santiago, Ph.D., M.B.A.
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