As poor behavior seems frustrating, why does it happen? I think that many people don’t understand that it is a physical manifestation of a spiritual misalignment. What does that mean? Well, as your child may layout on the ground crying, they are not aligning with your thoughts and ways- but why? Why do they want, or believe, they should have that item? As parents, we forget that each incident response is a lesson, and at times we inadvertently teach our children that if they behave, they should be rewarded. As an adult, I believe it is easier to see this lesson as a reality. How many of you believe that since you do the right things, good things should happen? I can honestly reflect and say, I am one that does.

As children perceive their behavior as null-and-void at the end of the day (good and bad choices), this means that they keep a fresh slate, and as adults a lot of us carry this mentality forward. As wonderful as it is, and Biblically accurate for the negative aspect, issues need to be addressed. So, how do you keep proper behavior as an adult or child when life is in “a time like this”, meaning chaos or hostility? I would like to say with a smile and charity, but who can really do this without dissociating themselves? As I want to help you remember, poor behavior or habits come from a misalignment of beliefs, and most of the time I believe that it is because you rejected all the internal ques.

For myself, it does not come easy to reject the bad feelings and only cling to the good ones, actually I have beat myself up for a decade before because of my decisions, so I understand why you would just want to forget them. The thing is that when your wound of “you aren’t good enough” or whatever lesson your broken love taught you a while ago get hit, you are going to act out, just like your child. Honestly, with eight options of love to break, it is easy to see how behavior and emotions are fragile. In loss of self™ you sort of sit in stagnation, wanting to do better, just not knowing how, and today, I want to let you know that when I say that you can change the world despite your past, it is not an ode to resilience.

As love is charity in the Bible, this means to have the proper behavior means being there for others, finding spaces that can help you shine, feel appreciated, and have a voice. The reason is that if you distract yourself with giving love, you can’t disassociate from shame, guilt, and embarrassment. So, what is the best place to do this? Well, with those who need your expertise, your insight, and those on the path you may have already left. If your child is laying on the floor, reflect on what they may be thinking (even if you are exhausted), maybe even sit down with them. Maybe they, and you, just need some loving. Some ideas and concepts I have found are:

• they have behaved well for a while and feel they deserve something
• last time they were told the next time they would get something
• they don’t accept “no” because they don’t hear it enough
• they have had a rough day and it brought them joy- they are clinging to joy
• they want something of their own because they may have a lot of 2nd hand
• they see you get something each time, so they want the same treatment

Children are a mirror for what you want to know- and don’t- about yourself, so if they are feeling this way, reflect on yourself, and understand your version of it. In becoming self-aware, saying there is an issue, and wanting a better way, you are on the way to properly behaving in any time because you understand time, effects, and resolutions. I believe in this and in you because I was there. I got from feeling down to getting up. I even got kicked back down again, but for myself, this business is my way of helping others so that I keep healing, overcoming, and staying relevant to allow you to set yourself apart as yourself, and truly radiate into the world.

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