My men of the group, finding a good woman seems to be as hard as finding a good man, but why? We are in a world that loss of self™ causes the insecurities to permit the misuse of one’s being for pure pleasure, while we all await true love. In hearing many conversations online, a good woman is not something men, or boys, are taught about. It is more a topic of fertility and grandchildren, and not whom to choose, how to choose, or what to stay away from.

To me, this is wild, but true because in parallel, a little girl hears, get a prince charming. Let a man save you, and essentially just be fragile and rely upon him instead of work beside him. I am truly not sure if this is spite from Eve, or if for some reason the world decided to teach us all the wrong way, so we are confused and lost on how we are actually supposed to be with another person. So, in reading Ecclesiasticus, Chapter 26 WYC, I found some pointers about a woman that I want to know, is it accurate?

Do you men, or even women, agree with this list, or is there something that is off to you? In your own life can you use these directions to help you become a better woman, or respondent to women?

• The husband of a good woman is blessed; for why the number of their years is doubled [or the number forsooth of the years of him double]
• A strong woman, that is, against sins, delighteth her husband; and (he) shall [ful]fill in peace the years of his life
• A good woman is a good part (or partner) in the good part of them that dread God, she shall be given to a man for [his] good deeds
• The sorrow of heart, and mourning, is a jealous woman. In a jealous woman is (a) beating [or scourge] of (the) tongue, and she communeth with all men
• As a yoke of oxes [or oxen] which is moved, so and a wicked woman; he that holdeth her, is as he that taketh [or caught] (hold of) a scorpion
• A drunken woman is great ire, and despising [or strife[; and her filth(hood) [or nakedness] shall not be covered
• The fornication of a woman is in the raising of (her) eyes; and [she] shall be known in (or by) the eyelids of her
• Make thou firm the keeping in (or of) a daughter not turning away herself; lest she mis-use herself, if she findeth (an) occasion
• Be though aware of all unreverence of her eyes, and wonder thou not, if she despiseth thee
• The grace of a busy woman shall delight her husband; and shall make fat his bones
• The cunning (or the knowing) of her is the gift of God. A wise woman and a still (one) is not (ex)changing of (or with) a learned [or the taught] soul
• Grace [up]on grace is an holy woman, and the sahmefast. Forsooth all weighting is not worth a continent soul
• As the sun rising in the world in the highest things of God, so the fairness of a good woman is into the ornament, or the adornment, or her house
• A lantern shining on an holy candlestick, and the fairness for a face on (or in) [the] steadfast age, that is, as such a lantern lighteneth the church, and such a face maketh fair ripe age, so a good woman maketh fair her house
• Ever lasting foundaments on a firm stone, and the behests, (or the commands), [or the commandments] of God in the heart of a holy woman

What do you think? I think that some of this is true, but some parts that make women seem like they are for men are an ego bruiser. Sometimes it is hard for me to remember man was made, and woman from him on deep level. For example, if you start a project at work, and someone comes on board to help, who is really in charge? This is the same with man, Adam was made and given reign over the animals and land, then eve came, so who is really supposed to be in charge? From an ego place, I would like to, and prefer working alongside my significant other because I don’t want to just be a lost follower, but at times God needs that. God needs that for the man to realize he is more than a provider, but a leader, and for a woman, so that she sees she can have rest.

In the culture today, so many women have had to absorb the role of the man, that loss of self™ is really just arguing with internal information vs. external. Women want to rest, and I think that our menstrual cycles were supposed to help, since women went to a separate tent until they were “clean” again, but that break stopped. That balance of responsibilities has from the male has stopped, and now women are having to do it all. On the other hand, men are being taught that life is an option for family, relationships, and true goals.

In life, a good man and a good woman are possible, are waiting, and are being curated today as you read this, but for the men of the group, what makes a good woman for you? What makes them worth your time? What makes them a rib from your cage? As a lady, what do you need to do to make yourself a better version of you? As we are all sinful, and have our flaws, we should aspire to be our best, if not just for our spiritual journey, so be aware how you are presenting yourself, accepting your roles in life, and be honest when things aren’t okay.