Have you ever noticed there is light in the darkness? No, well, let me share. If darkness can only be created “without light”, after not having light for a while in the “darkness”, why can we begin to see? What happens to your eyes? Don’t the pupils widen, your eyes bulge, and as you strain to see, shades and shapes become visible? That is light in the darkness. This means that no matter how long you believe you are in the dark, there is always the ability to find the light. It may take about 10-30 seconds to see (time being relevant), but you have the ability to change and adapt.

In life this is the same- with time, you can find the light. As you sit in the darkness of loss of self, if all you do is look down, it will always seem dark because your head blocks the light from behind, but when you begin to look up, your eyes will start to change. That means in loss of self, all you have to do it be present, even if you can’t see, and look ahead, around, or up, and light can be brought to you. When I was once in a cave, it was said to be special because it was one of few places that could present total darkness. I saw it, and it is like an abyss. You cannot see your hands inches in front of you, but the natives that used it, called it a healing cave.

My reasoning is that in that darkness, you are with yourself, and therefore can find yourself. As they said it took a while for your eyes to adjust in that darkness, I think about 2 weeks, is it not interesting that is the same amount of time needed to break a habit? Since I did not stay 2 weeks, I was met with just the abyss and the feeling of space. Can you imagine, this darkness like no other, still eventually providing light, and still being known to heal? Well, in loss of self, you may be in a metaphorical cave. You may struggle, be stuck in heartbreak, or even lost in love, but this dark space you feel still has light.

Though we have been taught to say there is not light in “darkness”, the truth light has to present for it to be dark, just as dark has to be present to say there is light. In another way, you cannot have one without the other because to know one is to lack the other at some point. Think about it, if love is constantly present, you don’t know heart break. If acceptance has not been given, you don’t know it is toxic. If your little only cried due to over stimulation, they would never know peace just frustration. Even without light, if you look up, be present your body, and hope that change came come,being in a dark space does not have to be bad, but a time of awareness and personal development.

Like the cave, the time for your adaptation and transformations are mostly going to be found in dark places but as you allow the light to come in, you can heal. Healing can only happen with choice to look more than down, and it pain it may be hard, but once you acknowledge it, you can begin to look for the light. Yes you could run away, yes you could constantly look down, but instead hope, and if you can find light for one moment, know you have the ability to escape.