Why do you need permission to be you? Why do you need permission to thrive? These two questions are heavy in my heart today because in the Bible and as people, we somehow have been taught that being us is just not good enough. We have been shown that someone needs to convince us that we are good enough, smart enough, and well enough off that we can achieve our dreams.

In loss of self™ that experience changed you, created a limit, and with heartbreak (or love-break), that limit is still there. Many times they will resurface as stumbling blocks like isolation, alcohol, drugs, anger issues, or another. You use it to protect yourself from that experience’s pain again, but in the midst of it, you are still trying to live life as if nothing happened or you haven’t changed.

In pursuing your dreams, your creativity is one of the most authentic versions of yourself, and that means even in healing. At times healing is not having to cry through the memories, or determine what has become of you since then, but something more. At times, healing is giving yourself permission to express your emotion, without judgement, to the point there is no more of it left inside of you. It could be done in singing, dancing, running, boxing, painting, writing, or even recording.

These methods are not just helpful in the moment, but the raw expression of self does not need permission from another. You don’t need permission from another to choose a point and say I want more again. To choose the moment to say, it’s okay not being okay, and more so that you have hope there is an out. Loss of self™ can be lonely, and loving yourself enough to forgo the permission of another, to say your emotions are valid, that your tears are valid, and that your life is valid should be a thing of the present.

You are in control of your permission, no matter what the world says, and that means knowing that you don’t have to stand for a situation, you can always walk away (just not from life, you have a designated time for that). God didn’t promise things and then take them just to pain you, there is a purpose. For example: if you had your candy taken from you, why would you need permission to fight for it, try to replace it, or get justice? Would your instincts not kick in to protect- it is the same with your life’s value.

Why have you stopped fighting for you? Why have you not tried to replace what you have lost in these events, or even take the necessary steps to get justice? At times, fearing the repercussions holds us back, and I respect that, but when it becomes an excuse, what then? How do you proceed to life again? See, you don’t need permission from anyone to say you want more, to clear your life up with love, or even Move Forward In Love!™, it all starts with your mindset and appreciation of your life’s journey now.

I have had to do this in several situations of loving another, and I will let you know that at times you just have to live. You have to have the thought process of resilience and take the time to be vulnerable enough to let it go. Finding this point can be scary, and going through it is even hard, but you have always been good enough. You never needed the world to tell you that your experience was okay, but somehow you were taught that. So now, answer yourself this- why do you still need the permission of others to live again? (Leave your comments below)