In love, how many times does it take you to “muster up the courage” to do something- to take the chance, to take them out, to try again, to see where it goes? How many times do you have love in courage- feel you deserve the chance, accept going out for the potential of love, feel that person is worth your efforts to try again, or accept there is a bond that could be more, so you see where it goes? Courage and love are synonymous in the fashion that they are homogeneous in life.

Experiencing courage and love is no great feat because sometimes we go “head over heels” or “take the leap” just because, but for those of us who have been broken, wanting to try again, or just wanting to get out of the cycle of wondering why it isn’t working love can be a struggle. Knowing how to overcome the struggle of pain, love, and life is tricky because so many times life doesn’t let you easily leave the cycle, but yet mocks you as it keeps “proving” your worst fears true- you aren’t worth it, you aren’t lovable, etc.

Today, I want to share three steps on how to overcome love, with courage + love, even if you have lost it. The first is to believe. Believe that you are worthy, you can be with the right person, and you want to whenever that opportunity arrives. To believe in yourself, is to take the biggest chance. If you can believe in your worth, then you can have the courage to weed out the wrong partner, and you can have courage to explore love in baby steps once that right-er person comes along.

The second step is trust. Trust that you can stand the silence, patience, and opportunities. It is your courage to trust that God or the universe has your best interest at heart, which makes the moves possible. It is your love of self, that will even provide the comfort in silence and prudence, while you wait in patience. If you are able to trust that there is more than what you currently see, tomorrow may be the start of a new way.

The third step is not to be afraid. To not be afraid, is not fearing the lack of achievement in having courage and love, but not being afraid that it will happen. In moving forward, especially in love, fearing the success is just as great as fearing the failure- either way you can lose yourself. When you look to love, you will have to compromise on “who you are”. Not that you can’t keep your identity, but for two to become one, they have to blend and connect because the desire to be individuals will remain the separating factor, and only a bridge of desire will keep the relationship afloat.

Your courage and love can help you overcome, and these three steps can be used for more than just relationships, but with job choices, moving, or gaining a new friend. Your life is a luxury, so get creative. When you stop looking to the world to inspire you, but look to your world to inspire you, the difference lies within the authenticity of courage and love. You were made to withstand your circumstances, but it is your choice in how you will overcome.