As children we are met with the identity of “child”. A lot of us are told what to do, how to do it, and what not to try. We stand in confusion as independence is at our fingertips, but the love and acceptance we crave is held behind our very first glass ceiling- at someone else’s timing.
Funny, right? The ones that love us stop us, but as we grow, they want us to rise above the ceiling, as I may add, totally unequipped with confidence, but only knowing outside confirmation as our guide. We tell our children that they cannot help with dishes, and do not need to talk back, but when we are adults does this not translate to you cannot help on a new project until I say so, and not to express ourselves to authority?
Though this can demean our current self value as adults, how could you heal to find confidence, while building our children to grow with it? First, you must understand your identity (who, what, when, where, how, and why). Second, you must recognize what love is and how it affects us (love languages, negative and positive effects). Third, you must know practice releasing control to allow your children to grow, as well as speak up for yourself.
Being you is hard, but it does not mean it is impossible! When you have been hurt as a child it is imperative to see how it effects and affects you, even as subconscious as its base may be, then heal from this point forward. By emotionally healing you can then change mentally, and then move forward in love, as you!
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